It's Just Too Small

A too small gown is a defficult problem. It's much easier to fix a too big problem, but if you can be patient and creative you can solve this problem. Depending on where the gown is too tight will have it's list of possible solutions. Looking at each option and figureing out which works best for a bride is sometimes an adventure.

Added July 2008

Hi Leanna,

Gussets have no set shape. I usually start with a rectangle, sew that in and adjust as needed. Many ladies do need room added to their bust for that grows too with a pregnancy- sometimes a lot. 

added March 2008

Hello, I stumbled across your page after typing "wedding dress alterations" in Google. I'm hoping you can help me, seeing as you're a professional. Today my wedding dress came in so I tried it on & of course, it doesn't fit perfectly, which is usual. The problem is that the bodice, especially the bust area is too tight. Its hard to zip up & it pushes my boobs up...I cant really describe that but I think you know what I'm talking about. The dress is a size 2 & is from Alfred Angelo. The consultant who took my measurements said that I was in between sizes & that by going with the smaller size, there would be less alterations. I believe she said that something would need let out. The dress is made of a satin material, & has beading all around the top of the bodice as well as the bottom of the bodice. There is a row of buttons down the back but those are for decorational purposes as there is a zipper. My question is: Will a seamstress be able to let this out to fit comfortably? I read on your page that some cant be and others have said there is about an inch to 2 inches on wedding dresses that can be let out. I'm kind of panicking & hope you can help. Thanks in advance!

-Lindsey

I can't say for sure without looking inside the dress. There is usually a little bit in any gown that can be let out. Will there be enough for you to be comfortable? I just can't say. If you can zip it now and still breath, than it can probably do done.  

added March 2008

I've read thru your special questions from other brides's and I have a concern!

i requested my dress to be made with a lace up back by the manufacturer. they agreed to the change and added it to my total bill.....i was pleased as punch, til I read somewhere on your site about the details of the dress being altered in a way that could mess up the back details of the dress when it converted to a lace up back.....

using my index finger as a guide, i have tried to "block out" the zipper area of the dress to see if it would look OK with this change that i have made. the sample was 6 sizes too small, i had no idea what the back of the dress looked like. i unfortunately assumed it was the same back as another dress i tried on by the same designer.....but I am not sure. I can't quite tell.......

Soooo, my new question is: Will the back of my dress look crazy with the lace up feature. Will I be unwittingly advertising that "I am too fat for this dress"? (I ordered the dress in one size smaller to accommodate the lace up)

I am attaching pics of me in the sample dress that may help you better visualize.......it doesnt help that I am already plump, so I am concerned about the "too fat for the dress" sentiment.

IF this will look crazy, what could be done to "fix it"?

Thank you SOOO SOOOO MUCH for your time and patience! Latasha

I think you might have confused 2 separate things I wrote about altering a dress to gain size. A gusset is a small piece of fabric that is sewn into the side seam of a garment to enlarge it. This usually ends up looking unnatural and advertising to the world that you were too big to fit into your dress. A lace-up back on the other hand is a design element that looks quite natural, can add space to a dress but doesn't shout that it was necessary for the person to fit into the dress.

For your style of gown I think a lace-up back will look wonderful.

added March 2008

Is it better to let out a dress at the zipper or the seams, does it make a difference?

I'm high waisted and the dress isn't fallin on me right, it's very tight in the torso (it does zip), and I think if it's let out, it can hang on my body correctly, (when I zip it up now, there is a wrinkle that goes all around it horizontally at my waist, and the shoulder straps stick up off my shoulder like the dress can't hang down on me.

Anyway hope that explanation helps. Nancy

I try to let out any dress at the sides first. If that doesn't give enough room than the other seams can be let out. Letting out at the zipper will throw the dress out of line. If this doesn't create an objectionable situation, then you can do it.

I can not advise that anyone go against the label directions but I can tell you why the prohibition is there. Most people do not have fancy irons that won't drop water as they steam. A hot water drop can stain the satin. Using a cover cloth will protect the fabric, but that's not easy to put on a label. Plus, most people don't want to take the time it takes to properly steam a gown. The manufacturers don't wish to have to replace dresses ruined by consumer maltreatment, so they say don't do it on the label.

I have professional equipment so I do steam seams that I have let out. Most times with satin, I can get it to look nearly invisible.

added January 2008

Hi Leanna,

My daughter purchased a wedding gown knowing it was a size too small in the bust from a store in new york city which sells sample gowns donated by designers with all proceeds going to charity. I was against the purchase because of the alterations needed and the fact that you pay for the dress in full and take it with you. The store has no responsibility from that point on. Of course, they assured my daughter this dress could be made to fit and I could not talk her out of buying it. They told her their seamstress, Julie, is a dressmaker who can work miracles. Well, guess what. Julie cannot do the alterations as she was in a car accident and is in rehabilitation. Thank God she is alright. However, we now have a dress that does not fit and no miracle worker. They have highly recommended another seamstress who doesn't actually work for their store. I guess none of the other seamstresses in their store can handle the job. Now doesn't that give me a warm, fuzzy feeling. The wedding is June 29, 2008 so I'm getting really nervous about this dress.

Would you give me your opinion on whether you think anything could be done to make the bust fit. It's a whole size too small. I can't pull a picture into this note. Would you be so kind as to look at the dress on this web site and let me know what you think.

http://www.brides.com/fashion/dresses/gallery/wedding_dresses/runway/designer/henryroth/detail/126118?offset=35&page=4

With the wedding only 5 months away, I'm considering proposing that we start looking for another dress. Time is getting short. Would appreciate your opinion on whether you think this dress can be altered. As I said, the bust is a size too small. The dress will not zipper.

Thank you, Mary Ellen

I would need to look at the seams to see if there is enough there to let out. If there is I could do it, but the real question for you is: Can you find someone in your town to do this? You can call other bridal stores. They often have a list of alteration specialist like me who work as independents. Try asking at the local fabric stores and look in the yellow pages.

added January 2008

I was wondering, i have a dress, a size 10 my mom got for me from davids bridal, well it wont zip and there is about 2-3 inch difference, it wont close its like my back is too big for the dress but the rest of it fits, is it fixable? Ash

You have several options. The side seams might have enough in them to let out to make the dress zip. There might also be space in the back darts or princess seams. You can also remove the zipper and put in lacings. There are some pictures on my site of a few dresses I have done this to. http://www.leanna.com/Bridal/Impossible.htm

added September 2007

I ordered a dress from DaVinci size 18. Now, I'm a street size 18 but for some reason the gal at the store must of not measured me correctly.

I'm am 15 days away from my wedding, my dress fits but won't zip up all the way from the middle of my back up. It's a brides maid dress and not a real wedding dress. I'm going for a fitting tonight. I just picked up the dress a couple of days ago and I'm very scared that they won't be able to let out enough in order to zip up al the way.

Has this happened to you before? Do you think that they will be able to help me? I need any thoughts you might have.

Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Heather ST. Louis, MO

Most dresses these days do have more in the seams than there used to be. I have been able to let dresses out as much as 3" through all the seams. It sounds like you need only a little bit. Without seeing the dress it's hard to say, but I doubt there will be a problem in getting this dress zippable for you.

added August 2007

I am due to get wed in 5 weeks. I went to collect my wedding dress and it does not zip up at the back although i am exactly the same weight as when dress was ordered and i was measured. Lady in the bridal shop has been very rude to me and at first advised whilst I was in the shop that There is about 2 inches at each side of the dress so i should be fine as i only need 2 inches more at the back. She then waited till the following day when I was at home and rang to say I can buy more fabric for adding to the dress as she doesnt think i will have enough??? My problem is, the top of the dress that doesnt zip is very detailed with boning and beads etc, if fabric is added, how is it matched, will it be reall noticable?

Thanks in advance for your response, Laura

It depends on the skill of the alteration lady if it will look good or not. If she can get the fabric from the same company the dress is from the color will be good. If she trots down to the local fabric store to get the fabric it might not match perfectly. Detailing and boning can be added to the extra piece that is usually inserted at the side seam so it's under the arm and less noticeable.

You have a good amount of time for this to be done. Don't let her procrastinate till the last minute or you might get stuck with something that looks lousy and no time to change it.

added July 2007

Dear Leanna,

I read your website "rules for purchasing a bridal gown" and found it very helpful. I am wondering if you could give me specific advice. My soon-to-be father-in-law graciously honored me by offering me his deceased wife's gown to wear on my wedding day. The gown is beautiful, but I am between a size 14 and 16 and I am guessing the gown is an 8. It does not reach around my back and my arms do not fit into the lace sleeves. My future sister-in-law and I discussed possibilities, but I am not comfortable altering the structural integrity of the gown and it's style. Is there any "simple" way to retool this gown or would squeezing a 16 into an 8 require remaking parts of the gown and compromising the original style? Also, would the cost for such alterations be high as well?

Thank you very much. I appreciate an insight you may have to share.

Sincerely, Anamari

What a wonderful gift he has offered!

I used to redesign Mom's gowns for their daughters use a lot when I was in North Carolina. It can be tricky and expensive but it's not impossible. Sometimes design elements have to be changed, but I doubt it's as drastic a matter as you are thinking. If you can find someone who has done this work before it will make the process easier. I would need to see the gown on you to give you specific ideas of what can be done. Structure is important to think about but the possibilities are really limited only by your creative mind.

added February 2007

hello,
I bought a dress off ebay for my sister's wedding. It fits well, except the bust-line is bit tight (1/2 inch). Can I have this easily taken out or will the satin show originally stitch marks?

Thanks so much!
Debbie

With satin there is a risk of the old stitching showing, but with proper steaming the impressions can be made very unnoticeable. I'll bet no one will know but you that it was let out.

It seems odd to me, but in my experience, it has been the finer fabrics that show the original stitching impressions more than the cheaper ones do. Silks often show impressions the most while Polyesters usually steam out nicely.

added October 2006

I just received my wedding dress from jcpenney.com....which of course...was not what the measurements said it was....I REALLY LOVE THIS DRESS....and don't have to time to ship another one....I called a seamstress today and am going to see her on monday....However, I am so nervous she won't be able to fix it....

It is a two piece gown the skirt fits snug so i would like something done to that...the top however needs a good 4 inches to fit correctly it's a strapless top that zips all the way up the back, it has a few seems that look like she can add a panel to this to make it bigger, I know nothing about sewing and found your website and it seemed like you have helped other people with their questions...so i thought i would give it a try

I am doing this to a bride's maid dress right now. The wedding is November 4. She came in yesterday to see how the panels fit and it needed only a small adjustment. I have to add beading to the new pieces, but the top looks very nice.

Actually it is fortunate that you need more then just a little bit. Putting in tiny slivers in the seams looks really odd, but 4" is a good amount for it looking normal. This may sound odd, but she may even think about making the panels that will be next to the added piece smaller so it is relatively the same size as the added piece. This will add to the illusion that the added panel was meant to be there. She may also need to add boning to the new pieces.

There should be enough in the seams of the skirt to give you a little breathing room without adding panels.

Hope this helps!

added July 2006

Dear Leanna,
I hope I am reaching the right person. You give very good advice for brides to be as to alterations and other matters. I am recently engaged and my mother has finally been able to un-seal her wedding gown to see if I could wear it. The gown is very pretty and has been kept sealed for 41 years, no yellowing. The only problem is my Mom was a size 8 (1966 size 8) and I am a size 10 (2006 size 10). The length is perfect (we are both 5'10") but the dress will not zip up (way too tight) and the sleeves are also too tight. Is it worth it to try and take the dress out to fit me? I have yet to take it to a professional seamstress because I am afraid I will spend several hundred altering the dress to find it just doesn't look right and then I will have to rush around finding a new dress and starting over. Can a dress that is 41 years old be taken out? I am thinking of having the lace sleeves removed and maybe that lace being used to cover the letting out seams on the sides, but again this could be a lost cause. I have attached some pictures of me (trying to squeeze in) the dress and wonder if you can give me advice on if I should go for it or start shopping.
Thank you in advance for taking a look.

Warm regards, Liz

I can't tell you what is "worth" you trying. You need to take it to someone and get an estimate, than decide if the price is what you want to pay. It can be done, but even a new dress may not look the way a brides wants once the work has been done on it. Only you can answer that question. The only thing I can add is that since the gown is 41 years old the seamlines of the old seam may show some once they are let out. But this too might be very faint and you may think it is worth it anyway. It might help you to ask your seamstress to try one seam and see what it looks like and then decide if you want to go ahead and try it.

added May 2006

I am hoping that you can help me out in answering a question.

I am going to be a bridesmaid in a wedding. When I first ordered a dress, I had tried on a Size 2, and it fit fine. Since then, I have gained about 5 lbs, and the dress is tight around the top part. It zips up, but I have the little bits of flesh coming out the sides up top.

I don't know that I can lose weight before the wedding in a couple of weeks. I have to also have the dress hemmed. It is black with these straps in the front. Is there a solution that can be done on the sides or with the zipper in back -- like an extender or something like that?

Please help asap!! I'm freaking out -- I tried it on again after losing 3 lbs -- and, I still bubble out
the top.

Thanks so much, Tina

Although it's easier to take a dress in than let one out there is usually at least 1/2 inch in each side seam that can be let out in most dresses. That will give you an inch total more room. I doubt you need more than that.

added March 2006

HELP!! I am in my cousin's wedding on April 22, 2006. The 3 ladies in the wedding are all wearing a JCrew dress. Here is my problem, the dress is a size 16, it zips up the side, where there is also a eyelet hook under the arm. The zipper starts just below the waist line. The zipper goes up until it gets to the bra, from here, it will not zip. The eyelet hook, hooks, it is a little snug. Any ideas on how we can "add" in that area only? I am not savvy to sewing at all. I would be taking this to a local seamstress or sending the dress to the bride in Houston so she can take it to her seamstress. We were thinking maybe a "panel" or an "extension" of some sort would be the answer. I appreciate any advice you can provide. As you can tell, I am running out of time. Thanks! Kitty

Most gowns have a little room in the seams to let out. This might be enough for you to get it zipped. If a panel is needed to add width, I'm sure the seamstress you take it to will know what to do.

added March 2006

I have a small problem. My brother is getting married, he is my only brother, they are not having any bridesmaids or groomsman in the wedding so there is no bridal party, but I purchased a bridesmaids dress. I have an aunt who can make any alterations if I need it, so cost is no prob for me, but time is. I am such an idiot, I already had the dress altered for length so lifting it up anymore would only make the dress look short and stupid. My problem is I just tried the dress on again and just realized the I probably should have had her work on the torso area before she cut the bottom off. I just want to know is it possible to take out the dress a little bit from the zipper. my problem is time. Since my aunt will be flying in from NY to MO the night before the wedding. This is the first time I had to have a dress altered and did it without really thinking I feel like such a moron. I am so mad I did this. Its just a little tight but its not too bad. But if I want to can the dress be taken out by taking the zipper off and letting the ends out a bit and sewing the sipper back on?

It might be able to be done as you describe. It depends on if there is fabric in there to let out. Usually there is not much in the zipper area. When I need to let out a dress I look first at the side seams. The odds of there being fabric there are much higher and it's usually easier to do the operation at the side seams than at the zipper.

If it's only a little bit you need for comfort sake, I'm sure it can be done and should not effect the hem enough to make a difference.

added February 2006

I purchased a wedding gown a year ago. I had to postpone the wedding and never had a first fitting or ever tried the gown on. As I am about to marry 6 months from now I have finally put it on. Well, we could not get the zipper up my back. I was a little concerned because I have not gained any weight and even if I did it would effect my waist not the middle of my back. I was a little ticked at the sales people because it seems to me they did not have the right Measurements. I am also nervous the any alterations to let it out will look terrible because the entire bodice is beaded. What should I do?? Get a new dress?? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thank You
Courtney

It doesn't always matter if you gained or lost weight. In a year your body can change much. Have you been working out at a gym, or did you start a new sport? You could have easily exchanged a little weight to gained muscle mass which added inches to your chest and back.

It could have been wrong when you got it but since you didn't try it on, you'll never know for sure. Getting upset with the sales people is normal, but it won't help you now and will only make more stress for you to deal with.

Your basic options are: try to alter the gown or get a new one. How attached are you to the gown you have? It can probably be altered, but it may cost a lot. Depending on how the seams are I can get up to 4" on most gowns. On a heavily beaded gown, where the only seams I can get to are the sides seams, you may only give 2", but that might be just what you need to get it zipped.

Make an appointment with a sewing professional and try hard not to worry until she can get a look at it.

added February 2006

i have an alfred angelo wedding dress that i got three years ago but due to circumstances beyond my control was not able to have the wedding as planned- don't ask. anyway i was a size 4 then and now im not. getting married 2/14/06 cant afford alterations. it is a two piece dress and now i cant zip or hook. was thinking of making a bow and eye hook it on to cover zipper and to keep dress on but i don't know how to make a bow- go figure huh. but i read somewhere even dresses to size you can let the back seam out 1.5 inches and the side seams 3 inches but i don't know how- can you help me i'm desperate and lost and running out of time. any suggestions on how to cover zipper so i can leave it down( i can get it up about 1/4 to 1/2 way) or how to fix it without ruining it. top half is corset style and aside from sleeveless being a little tight on arms is do-able, has snap in piece for back but i don't mind the skin vs the piece that cant snap in anymore. but im desperate about the bottom and the back. PLEASE HELP IF YOU CAN! Thank you, Kathi

I like your bow idea. Can you ask an Aunt or family friend who knows how to sew help you? There's really nothing I can do for you not being able to see the dress. If you were near Cincinnati, Ohio, I could probably figure out what to do. I do often find ways to make dresses larger, either letting out seams or adding creative accents like your bow idea. I can't teach you how to sew over e-mail. I can give you ideas like letting out the side seams, but if you don't know how to sew, it's not going to help you.

If you don't have a family member or friend that can sew you need to find a sewing professional to help you. Please don't try to do this yourself. If you mess it up you will not be happy with yourself. It is very worth the cost to have a professional do it. I promise you!

added December 2005

Please help!

I ordered a bridal gown from an online shop that has turned out to be too small. I had tried on a dress 2 sizes bigger that was too big, and based on the designer's (Maggie Sottero) size chart, I ordered the one that most closely matched my measurements. Well, it is way too small and I'm worried that it cannot even be taken out properly. The problem is the torso section; the waist and hips fit okay. I'm worried because the back has a tulle covering the back that looks like there are no seams to be taken out. The dress is the Yasmin Maggie Sottero model. What are my options? The wedding is April 8, so it is on the borderline of being to order another one, and I would really rather not pay for and order another dress.

Thanks so much in advance for your help,
Jennifer

Have you spoken to them about exchanging this dress for a larger size? They usually won't do it but it's worth a try to ask.

Many dresses can be let out at least 1" at each side seam. That would give you 2" total. That is usually enough for most tight fit situations.

Yes, I did ask, and they are claiming that the manufacturer won't take it back. However, I am even more upset now because I had ordered a size 8 based off the company's standardized size chart. I did this because I knew that wedding gown dresses are pretty random, so rather than go with my normal dress size (which is 6 or 4), I ordered the one that had the 36" bust. I figured it would give me some room since I usually measure about a 35.5". I just measured the dress, and the bust is only 30.5"! Who can wear that? It is way way off, and nowhere even close to their advertised size. What is the point of having a standardized size chart if you don't follow it?

Is this something that I should complain directly to Maggie Sottero?

I would try to talk to Maggie Sottero and insist that it was their mistake and tell them the dress is only 30" when you ordered 36". They probably won't care or offer to do anything for you, but it's worth a try. You can threaten to sue them but I doubt that will do any good either unless you are really willing to deal with the mess of actually going through with it.

You do have another option that is less stressful on your nerves. You can buy another gown and put this one on ebay. I know many brides who have been pleased with the prices they get on ebay. Or you can sell it through a consignment store in your town.

I would not suggest trying to alter it. It can be done, but the stress factor is high. I have fixed situations like this, but it's a long difficult process that can be very expensive. Since you have the time, buying another gown is usually less costly on both your nerves and your budget.

Thanks for providing a realistic view of the situation. I think you are right. I already went on a mad hunt for a new dress this morning, and will probably try to sell the 1st one on ebay or through a consignment shop.

In addition to the wedding, we just bought a new house to close next month, and I'm starting a new job next month. So it's already a million stresses amplified, I think I need to pass on arguing with Maggie Sottero.

added September 2005

Dear Leanna,

Today I went for my first fitting and the dress fit too tight (Mainly around the stomach, it is a drop down waist). I think the lady when she did my measurements got the wrong size- I actually lost 5 lbs since May, so I'm certain the measurements she took were not right, she ordered me a size 14 but I think I needed a 16. Anyhow, no way I can get another dress, this one was made in Hong Kong and took forever to arrive. It just came in today and my wedding is on 10/1/05.

The seamstress from the bridal shop swears that she can take out some of the waist, and also give room for the cap sleeves that fit so tight. I am very worried that she won't be able to "Take it out" and it look proper.

Have you had to take out a dress before b/c it was too tight? I am just very very worried it won't fit.

Thank you,
Laura

Depending on what fabric your dress is made of seams can be let out, but it may leave a faint mark where the seam used to be. Most guests at a wedding never notice this but brides see everything. There is usually about 2" in any wedding gown that can be let out. Careful steaming of the seams can eliminate almost all of the old seam marks. If she was confident enough to tell you it can be done, I'm sure she will be able to do it.

You are not alone for very few gowns come in fitting just right. Seems lately, I've been getting many letters about gowns being too tight too. The bridal industry measurement charts need serious help, but I doubt that will happen any time soon. And that doesn't help you any. It's not going to be fun waiting for your next fitting, but try not to worry. I'm sure you will be much happier when you feel the dress fitting better.

Hello,
Thank you for your quick response. 2" on each side can be let out, or 2 " total? Also, the dress is a Rena Koh made from raw silk. Described as "A Mikado Satin gown with scoop neck and short sheer cap sleeves with matching beading. The bodice is fully beaded with a drop waist. The skirt has matching beading along hemline and scattered throughout the skirt. "

I know it's too late in my case, but I sure hope they re-do the bridal industry measure charts, it really isn't accurate.

Thank you very much..
Laura

Any natural fabric, like silk, wool, and cotton, is easier to let out than a synthetic, like polyester. Raw silk is very forgiving too. The seams should steam out to be very unnoticeable.

Two inches total is usually in most dresses, but you can often get more. I got 4" out of a gown just last week for a lady. I would be willing to swear the size 10 they sent was really a size 4 with a size 10 label. That happens too.

I doubt you need 2". The difference in one size is only 1". You can zip it but it is tight, right? You shouldn't need more than that, and you don't want the dress to be too loose anyway.

added September 2005

Hello Leanna,
I just went in for my first alteration since my dress arrived at the bridal salon. Once I tried the dress on, I realized that is was too small and instead of hanging like it is supposed to, it bunches up around my mid-section and is extremely uncomfortable as it constricts my breathing. My measurements have not changed since I first ordered it. I am 5'4" and weigh 110 lbs. I was told by the bridal salon that the dress is indeed my size despite the fact that it doesn't fit. They informed me that it is too late to order another dress as my wedding is in 6 weeks and that I will need to lose weight in addition to having the dress let out a total of 1 inch which will leave holes along the seams. As you can imagine at 110 lbs, I really don't have much weight to lose and the bones in my chest will stick out if I'm any thinner which would be very unflattering in the dress I have chosen. I'm not sure how to proceed at this point and was wondering if you could offer any advice. Thanks so much, Jenny

This is not a common problem and your bridal store may have not encountered it before so they are a bit at a loss for what to do to help you. Telling you to lose weight was ridiculous, not to mention insensitive. Reordering is not an option, but offering to let you pick another dress from their rack is. Though you may not want that option, they should have offered it.

OK, to what can be done. I'm sure that there is at least 1" in the seams to let out. There may be more depending on how the dress is designed. I got 4" out of a gown just last week that was supposed to be a size 10, but I'd guess it was a 4 with a 10 label. The seamstress in the store may not understand that she can let out more than just the sides seams. Princess seams can give up to 2" if let out carefully. Usually there is not much in there, but if it can be sewn at only 1/4 of an inch for each seam that makes 1/2" total per seam. There are 4 princess seams, so it can add up to 2". Even 1/8 inch per seam will get you one more inch total. That might be enough to make you comfortable. If this is a strapless gown, you don't want it too loose anyway.

As for the holes, they should be able to steam them out to nearly nothing. For what is left, no one will notice and it will not show up in pictures. Many a gown fabric can be let out safely without any holes. Letting out is not an easy operation and the seamstress may be telling you these things to cover for the slim chance that you may not like the result. Many a bride wants her dress to be absolutely perfect and will settle for nothing less. They can be very demanding customers. But in honestly, many things a bride sees as imperfections in her gown will never be noticed by any guest at the wedding.

Getting them to make this right without adding significantly to your cost is going to be difficult. You can ask them to remeasure you and try to prove that they made the mistake, but it will take a lot of yelling and being a basic bitch to force them to respond. Adding stress to your life is not a good idea at this time. I would recommend finding an independent seamstress to alter the gown. It will cost you, but you will have more right for saying what you want.

There are other things you can do depending on how upset you are over this. You can report them to the Better Business Bureau. You can talk to your lawyer. If you paid with a credit card you can call your bank and issue what is called a charge back. The bank takes the money the store was paid and holds it until the store makes the transaction right. You have 90 days from the date of purchase to issue a chargeback. Once issued, the store has 10 days to make it right or loose the money. There may be other rules depending on what bank and charge company you are working with.

All these things will add stress to your situation and I'm a big advocate of limiting stress during wedding planning. There's enough there naturally for anyone's nerves.

I hoped these thoughts help you. I hate to see anything like this happen during a time when you want your life to run smoothly. Please let me know how things work out and know that I will be praying for you.

added January 2005

Hello..I found your wonderful site,thanks it has been very interesting indeed.MY question is this, I have bought the dress of my dreams (of course) I bought it on Ebay and got it for a song,it has the tags still on it of $950 US I got it with shipping for $300 Can ! It is in perfect continion...it is a size 12 Mon Cheri with detachable train,pearls and and a champagne color...I love it..ok..dress is in fine shape...lol..I am not! I am about a size 14/15 street cloth size the dress fits my in the waist area but not in the bust area...zipper will not go up..alright I have 6 1/2 month to the wedding I can loss the weight right??? ;) Now,my question is this...is it possible to remove the zipper in the back and make it into a corset lace-up back? The dress has spaghetti straps...Just in case there is still some reason the dress will not zip up ..The dress came with a matching wrap that could be used for material if need be (a thought) Is this idea to far fetched or could it be done do you think??
Any help would be greatly appreciated!
Thanks
Tammy

Yes, what you have suggested can be done and might even end up looking really nice, but it will take a skilled sewist to do it well. But you have lots of time and it might only take 10 pounds of weight loss to get that zipper to zip. I'm not usually for drastic alterations if it can be avoided. It often hurts the structural integrity of the gown.

If you do decide to use the wrap to piece the zipper area do it obviously. By this I mean you can't hid a piecing so be very obvious about it. Add pleats or some other decoration that is in keeping with the rest of the style of the gown. Don't just stick a piece of fabric smack in the middle of your back where every one will be staring at it during the ceremony. Piecing is usually done at the side seams to be less obvious, but I like the idea of removing the zipper and converting the back into a lace-up corset.

added July 2004

Hi,
First I wanted to tell you how grateful I am to have found your website. It has really been a lot of help.

I have a concern that I was wondering if you could help me with. I purchased the gown of my dreams about 3 months ago at a store that sells designer brands from other stores that went bankrupt. So I got a beautiful dress for only $400. I was thrilled!! the problem was that it is a size 10 dress, and I fit into a size 12. I was determined to loose all the pounds necessary to fit into that dress. I've tried for the past 3 months, and I don't seem to be loosing the weight I need. So I figure my body is just not going to cooperate anymore (and I am not necessarily unpleased with my body, I just wanted to fit into the gown). The gown fits a lot better around the tummy area (even though it's still a little tight), and it doesn't want to zip completely up (my back is wider than the dress). I decided to stop stressing myself about my weight and just buy a tummy control or shapewear suit, to alleviate some of the problem, but I also want to take it to a seamstress to take some of the torso out.

The gown is a two piece (bustier-type and skirt) that are attached. I checked to see how much fabric can be let out and I saw about 5/8" or 6/8" of fabric on each side!!! I only want 1/2" to be let out on each side... but is this possible?!?!? What should I do if it's impossible to let out??

I would really appreciate any help or orientation you may be able to give me.

Thanks!!!!!
Aurora

I generally try to avoid letting things out. The complications are many, from delicate fabric that doesn't like being unstitched to designs that make it impossible to move the seamlines. This is one of the big reasons I added a Bridal Studio to my site. To help brides avoid situations like this.

Having said that, your situation may not be hopeless. I have let out gowns with much success. You just need to understand up front that the results may not fit into your vision of perfection like they can when you are taking a gown in.

You have figured out problem number 1 - Is there enough room in the seams to be let out? Gowns used to be made with lots of seam allowance, but not any more. These days you are lucky to find 1/4 inch to let out on a seam. Which leads to the second item to figure out - How many seams can be used to let out? If there is only 1/4 inch but 6 seams, that is still a good amount of space.

The 3rd item of concern is: Are the seams snipped? Quite often the seams will be snipped at the curves to help the seam lay better. If this is so than it limits how much you can let the seam out.

The 4th item is the fabric itself. Many fine fabrics leave marks when the stitching in moved. Taking a seam in leaves these original stitching line marks on the inside and out of sight, but letting out puts these marks in plain sight. Some marks are more noticeable than others and it will be up to the bride what is acceptable to her. Guests at the wedding won't notice most of these marks but to some brides, just knowing they are there is upsetting.

Answering all the questions of can this be let out is complicated. It probably can be let out. Very few gowns are totally impossible to let out a little bit. It may not be possible to let out enough to make the fit perfect. Then you have the possibility of the old seam line marks showing. So the real question is are you going to like how it looks once it is let out? It may be that the gown can be made more comfortable but not a perfect fit. If you love the gown it's worth a try.